Finding A Guy

You've come out, told your partner, and gotten the okay — now how do you actually find a guy? Sam and Grayson turn this one into a field guide for bi and bicurious men: the health prep to handle first, a platform-by-platform tour, how to build a profile that works, first-contact etiquette, red flags, negotiation, the vibe check, and the encounter itself — down to the aftermath. Plus listener feedback, a Word of the Week, and cautionary meetup-gone-wrong stories. Heads up: 18+, adults only. Disclaimer: The hosts aren't medical or mental-health professionals. Nothing here is medical, legal, or psychological advice — speak with a qualified provider about your own health and relationships. Word of the Week: NPNC — No Pic, No Chat. Terms this week * PrEP — medication taken before exposure to prevent HIV. * DoxyPEP — doxycycline taken after a risky encounter (ideally within 24 hrs) to reduce syphilis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea risk. * Side — a guy who enjoys non-penetrative sex over anal. * DL / down low — men seeking discreet same-sex encounters without being out or with their partner's knowledge. * Vibe check — a low-stakes public meet to confirm identity and comfort before playing. Resource of the Week: DAP Health — A Guide to Safely Hooking Up Online [https://daphealth.org/a-guide-to-safely-hooking-up-online/], a safety checklist and hookup-lingo guide. Apps & sites we covered * Grindr [https://www.grindr.com/] — best-known hookup app; fast, location-based. * Sniffies [https://sniffies.com/] — web-based real-time map; heavy hookup/DL traffic. * Scruff [https://www.scruff.com/] — gay dating/hookup app; solid messaging, flat price. * Squirt [https://www.squirt.org/], Adam4Adam [https://www.adam4adam.com/], Manhunt [https://www.manhunt.net/] — web-based cruising/hookup sites. * Feeld [https://feeld.co/] — open-minded singles and couples; kink, poly, ENM friendly. * Tinder [https://tinder.com/] — mainstream dating/hookups; good for same-sex matches without paying. * SLS [https://www.swinglifestyle.com/], SDC [https://www.sdc.com/], Kasidie [https://www.kasidie.com/] — swinger/lifestyle sites; strong in some regions. Also: Reddit (r4r), sex-positive Discord servers, and IRL — gay bars, bathhouses, jack-off clubs. Next episode: Coming Out — not to your partner, but friends, family, and your own kids (if applicable). Join us. Listen and subscribe here [https://pod.link/6797092436], and a rating or review helps other men find us! Connect with us: Email podcast@bimenunfiltered.com with questions, topics, or your own story (write "OK for air" if we can read it on the show — and if you'd like to come on as a guest, same address). Find us at @BiMenUnfiltered on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61591794119108], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/bimenunfiltered/], Threads [https://www.threads.com/@bimenunfiltered], and X [https://x.com/BiMenUnfiltered], and at BiMenUnfiltered.com on Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/bimenunfiltered.com].