Ep. 88: What Gay Saunas Taught Me About Shame and Queer Belonging

Download my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnet⁠⁠⁠Can't Host Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/I recently had one of the most unexpectedly wholesome experiences of my life: after hooking up with a guy in a gay sauna, we ended up standing in the shower singing musical theatre songs together. The experience left me questioning many of the assumptions I’d carried about saunas, bathhouses, and queer sexual spaces. Why did I feel so much shame walking into a sauna in the first place? Where did that shame come from? And why have so many of us inherited the belief that spaces created by gay men for pleasure and connection are somehow less respectable than other forms of community?In this episode, I explore the history of gay bathhouses, the role queer spaces have played in helping LGBTQ people find each other, and the ways sexuality, friendship, intimacy, and belonging often overlap in queer culture. We talk about chosen family, minority stress, internalized shame, and why physical queer spaces still matter in the age of dating apps. Most of all, this episode is an invitation to question the stories we’ve been told about gay community, and the shame we may still be carrying because of them.Follow and connect at @georgecanthost on Instagram for more conversations about sex, shame, healing, and freedom. RESOURCES MENTIONEDJoin the Energy Work Membership: https://georgelizos.com/energy-work-membershipDownload the FREE Ultimate Energy Protection Toolkit audio training at https://www.subscribepage.com/energyprotectiontoolkit  Join the Can't Host Telegram group: https://t.me/+AWgYq94TARQ2ODJkGet the Can't Host T-Shirts: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/Ep.77: Sex Shame, OnlyFans, and My Top Era: https://georgelizos.com/blog/sex-shame-onlyfans-and-my-top-eraEp.83: Dom Tops vs Dumb Tops: Consent, Control, and Real Connection in Bed: https://georgelizos.com/blog/dom-tops-vs-dumb-tops-consent-control-and-real-connection-in-bedEp.18: Trending Gay Sex Toys with Agnetas Sergejevas: https://shows.acast.com/cant-host/episodes/66867b5704b201dd3472a0d4CONNECT WITH ME Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/georgelizos/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://georgelizos.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ MY BOOKS Be The Guru: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCjLightworkers Gotta Work: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKfProtect Your Light: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJdSecrets of Greek Mysticism: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1uPvrAncient Manifestation Secrets: https://2ly.link/1zCVg Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.