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by Kimmy Seltzer
Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She's consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.
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- Yesterday38 min
Dating Isn't An Interview: Finding Fun & Flow Coaching With Kimmy
Are you finding that dating, especially after a long relationship or marriage, feels more like a job interview than a playful adventure? Connection gets lost when you're stuck in checklist mode. But you might find flirtation awkward and unfamiliar so you default to a dry and serious conversation. In Episode 446 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Isn't An Interview: Finding Fun & Flow Coaching With Kimmy" Kimmy sits down for a coaching session with Florence, a divorced mother of twins and career nurse, who is bravely navigating the unfamiliar waters of dating after nearly three decades out of the game. Together, they unpack the challenges of dating in your "second act," where the urge for efficiency, protection, and seriousness can unintentionally sabotage connection, fun, and flirtation. The conversation explores the impact of childhood roles, cultural norms, and years spent in caretaker mode on how we now approach new relationships—often with more caution and control than curiosity or playfulness. Through honest reflection and real-life coaching, Kimmy helps Florence identify her internal roadblocks, develop actionable strategies to shift her mindset from "finding the one" to simply enjoying the journey, and practice the art of flirting without pressure. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by expectations, unsure about how to meet people, or fearful of opening up again, this episode delivers practical, compassionate guidance for reconnecting with your own sense of fun, establishing boundaries, and building confidence from the outside in. You'll hear: Why treating dates like job interviews can backfire and kill connection The three big reasons people in their second act approach dating too seriously The impact of being a caretaker and firstborn child on romantic dynamics Practical mindset shifts for bringing fun, flirtation, and flow back into dating Actionable steps to meet new people, practice flirting, and set healthy boundaries If you feel like dating has become more stressful than exciting, or if every date feels like a high-stakes evaluation and you know you need help in this area around playfulness and flirtation, Kimmy has her co-ed Speed Dating event coming up soon where you'll learn the key points of making incredible first impressions AND have a chance to meet singles she's hand picked just for you! This is not a matchmaking event but rather a fun way to practice with SOME LIVE, CO-ED FLIRTING PRACTICE and SPEED DATING all while getting feedback from the opposite sex. Go to www.stophatingdating.com and register. These spots go fast! Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- 1 weeks ago33 min
From Wife to Woman: The Identity Crisis No One Talks About After Marriage with Betsy Pake
Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, "Where did I go?" What happens when years of relationship, marriage, or caretaking lead to losing sight of your own desires, identity, and confidence? In Episode 445 of The Charisma Quotient, "From Wife to Woman: The Identity Crisis No One Talks About After Marriage with Betsy Pake" Kimmy sits down with coach, speaker, and podcast host Betsy Pake to dive deep into the identity crisis many women face when shifting from wife or mother to reclaiming themselves as sexy independent women again. Together, they explore the complexities of leaving a long marriage, including social conditioning, grief for lost dreams, and the often hidden costs of over-caretaking. Kimmy and Betsy shed light on how success can be redefined—not by the longevity of a relationship, but by the ability to grow, heal, and make empowered choices for yourself. You'll hear practical advice and personal stories from both Kimmy and Betsy about how to gradually step back into your own power, manage fear and uncertainty, and reconnect with joy after heartbreak. Learn why dating is a skill that anyone can develop, and how simple acts of self-care—whether choosing your favorite pie or creating a living space that reflects YOU—are crucial steps in becoming whole again. You'll hear: Why redefining success in relationships is key to letting go of shame and fear The critical importance of grieving for the version of yourself and life you imagined How women can identify and release over-caretaking patterns Practical steps to reclaim personal pleasure, joy, and identity after a long-term partnership The power of nervous system regulation for handling discomfort and making brave decisions If you've ever felt stuck or invisible, sign up for Kimmy's free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun with a plan https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- 1 weeks ago29 min
ICYMI: How To Attract Dates With A Great First Impression
How do the habits we form—inside and out—shape the quality of our lives and relationships? Can simple daily changes make a difference not only in how we feel, but also in how we're perceived and the connections we attract? In Episode 444 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: How To Attract Dates With A Great First Impression," Kimmy dives into the science and psychology of first impressions, sharing why these moments are so crucial in the world of dating—especially for those re-entering the dating scene or finding themselves a little "rusty and dusty." Kimmy highlights the powerful interplay between the way you present yourself externally and the confidence you feel internally. Drawing on stories from her clients and her own "red dress moment," she illustrates how small changes in style, attitude, and body language can lead to major transformations in romantic opportunities. Throughout the episode, you'll discover practical, actionable tips for showing up in a way that's authentic, memorable, and magnetic. From dressing to impress and curating a positive attitude to mastering conversation skills and being truly seen, Kimmy unpacks exactly what it means to market yourself for love—without ever losing sight of who you are. Plus, she answers a heartfelt listener email, offering encouragement and step-by-step advice for those who want to turn invisibility into irresistible energy. You'll hear: Why first impressions matter more than you think in dating and relationships The key factors people instantly judge when you walk into a room How updating your style can radically boost your confidence and attractiveness The science behind attitude, body language, and non-verbal cues Tips for starting engaging, memorable conversations (and what not to do) If you're ready to feel sexy, confident, and seen, sign up for Kimmy's free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun with a plan https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- 3 weeks ago1h 4m
10 Habits to Become Happier, Healthier, and More Magnetic with Allison Melody
How do the habits we form—inside and out—shape the quality of our lives and relationships? Can simple daily changes make a difference not only in how we feel, but also in how we're perceived and the connections we attract? In Episode 443 of The Charisma Quotient, "10 Habits to Become Happier, Healthier, and More Magnetic," Kimmy joins forces with Allison Melody (co-host of Dating Real Talk and host of Food Heals) to reveal their top habits for living a vibrant, attractive, and joyful life With Allison bringing her expertise on healing from the inside out and Kimmy championing outward strategies for confidence, they explore the beautiful synergy between wellness and charisma. From personal stories of transformation—like Kimmy's famous "red dress moment" and Allison's healing journey after tragedy—to actionable advice, the conversation covers mental, physical, and relational well-being. You'll hear about habits that range from nutrition hacks and superfoods to science-backed style upgrades, community-building secrets, and mindset shifts that will supercharge your magnetism. Both hosts candidly share stories, laugh about green juice "martinis," and give listeners tools that are both practical and inspiring. Whether you're looking to boost your dating confidence, your health, or your overall joy, this lively episode is packed with actionable takeaways. You'll hear: Kimmy's story of transformation—from "frumpy mom" to teaching magnetic confidence from the outside in Style and the psychology of "enclothed cognition"—how dressing with intention, color, and sexiness can instantly change your energy The surprising importance of community, real-life social "gyms," and connecting in a digital world Emotional release practices like "writing and burning" to clear mental blocks and shift energy The joy and personal growth that comes from adopting a "vacation mentality" in everyday life Ready to take a healthy step towards transforming your dating life? Sign up for Kimmy's free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun with a plan https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- May 4, 202654 min
Rediscovering Yourself Through Second-Act Dating with The Golden Bachelor's Carol Freeman
Have you ever wondered what it really feels like to date after decades in a long-term relationship? How do you build confidence, flirt, and open your heart when your dating "muscle" is out of practice? In Episode 442 of The Charisma Quotient, "Rediscovering Yourself Through Second-Act Dating with The Golden Bachelor's Carol Freeman" Kimmy welcomes Golden Bachelor alumna Carol Freeman to explore the unique terrain of second-act dating. Together, they open up about the awkwardness and excitement of dating after long marriages, the hurdles of online dating, and how rediscovering your playful, flirty side can be both liberating and intimidating. Carol Freeman shares her journey from having minimal dating experience to putting herself out there—on national television, no less—and how doing something for herself changed her life. Kimmy Seltzer and Carol Freeman discuss shedding "busyness" as a love shield and learning to prioritize pleasure, connection, and personal growth on the dating scene. As the conversation unfolds, hear Kimmy coach Carol live on must-hear topics like the impact of childhood experiences on later-life dating, the connection between self-reflection and attracting the right partner, and the importance of emotional intelligence. You'll hear: The difference between dating and being in a relationship—and why dating is a skill. Carol's candid journey from minimal dating to joining The Golden Bachelor. Real talk about Carol's experience on the show and some big reveals that came out of it Why self-reflection and "dating yourself" is crucial before seeking a new partner. The emotional highs and awkwardness of first kisses, flirting, and being vulnerable again. Ready to get back in the game but don't know where to go, what to do or how to be? Sign up for Kimmy's free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun with a plan https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- Apr 23, 202640 min
Why Modern Dating Feels So Disconnected With Dr. D Ivan Young
Have you ever come back from a date thinking, "Where was the spark?" Why is it that so many conversations feel like boring interviews instead of genuine connections? How can you move past surface-level banter to truly feel something? In Episode 441 of The Charisma Quotient, "Why Modern Dating Feels So Disconnected With Dr. D Ivan Young" Kimmy dives deep into what it takes to spark emotional connection with her special guest, Dr. D Ivan Young—a renowned emotional intelligence and human behavior expert. Together, they unpack why so many dates lack the emotional pull we crave and how generational and cultural patterns can block our ability to share or even recognize feelings. They explore how empathy works, why being a "people pleaser" works against you, and the neuroscience behind empathy and attraction—including how our brains react during meaningful conversations. Dr. Young also reveals the concept of "weaponized empathy" - how people (and even algorithms!) can manipulate our emotional triggers for their own purposes, and why understanding this is crucial for creating safer, more genuine relationships. Kimmy offers relatable stories and strategies for breaking out of defensive dating habits and cultivating emotional intimacy, rather than falling back into transactional chat or "LinkedIn exchanges." You'll hear: Why so many dates feel like interviews, not connections The neuroscience behind fight-or-flight mode and its impact on dating conversations The difference between being empathic, people pleasing, and genuinely connecting How cultural and generational beliefs influence your emotional expression Tangible skills to boost authentic conversation and emotional vulnerability on dates If you hate dating and find yourself in endless boring banter and disconnected dates, sign up for Kimmy's free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun and effective: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- Apr 17, 202635 min
Introvert Conversation Mistakes That Kill Attraction
Do you find yourself hanging back in social settings, struggling to know what to say on dates, or exhausted by the thought of small talk? You might consider yourself an introvert, which is why dating and socializing can be challenging. If this is you… whose energy gets drained by too much external stimulation, then this episode is for you. In Episode 440 of The Charisma Quotient, "Introvert Conversation Mistakes That Kill Attraction" Kimmy unpacks the most common misunderstandings and hidden mistakes introverts make that unknowingly kill attraction during conversation and social interactions. She explains why being an introvert is not the same as being shy or socially awkward, and introduces the four types of introverts to help you pinpoint your unique wiring. Through client stories and real listener letters, Kimmy exposes how incredible qualities like thoughtfulness and being a great listener can get lost in translation if you don't know how to bridge the gap between observing and engaging, especially in those crucial first moments. You'll also learn why your first impression matters more than what you say, how to move from safe, surface conversation into memorable, emotionally charged interactions, and why flirting is about more than cheesy lines. Kimmy arms you with practical tips, conversation hacks, and a breakdown of the six biggest conversation mistakes introverts make (plus one bonus!) that could be holding you back in love, friendship, and even work. You'll hear: The real difference between introversion, shyness, and social anxiety How to identify your introvert "type" and what it means for you The hidden conversation mistakes introverts make that kill attraction Why surface-level, factual conversation leaves you overlooked or friend-zoned Techniques for being playful, flirting authentically, and making emotional connections If you are an introvert and have a hard time approaching or sustaining a conversation, secure your spot in Kimmy's upcoming dating workshop and discover through practical, actionable strategies to convert conversations into dates. But space is limited, so act now! https://www.stophatingdating.com Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
- Apr 9, 202636 min
Orgasm, Oxytocin & Attraction: The Missing Link to Dating Confidence with Dr. Anna Cabeca
Do you struggle with body image, feel stuck, or wonder what role oxytocin, intimacy, and even your wardrobe play in reigniting your sense of self and attraction? Your hormones and low body confidence could be the reason why you are not dating. Your hormones, your confidence and your body image are all in a relationship with each other. In Episode 439 of The Charisma Quotient, "Orgasm, Oxytocin & Attraction: The Missing Link to Dating Confidence with Dr. Anna Cabeca" Kimmy talks with Dr. Anna Cabeca, a triple board-certified OBGYN and women's health expert. The two dive into the intricate relationship between hormones, confidence, body image, and intimacy. Dr. Anna Cabeca breaks down how hormone imbalances, such as declining estrogen and progesterone, can affect everything from your drive to your flirting signals, and shares actionable lifestyle and medical holistic strategies to help women reclaim that spark. Together, they discuss not only the physiological solutions but also the importance of lifestyle changes like nutrition, movement, connection, and microdosing oxytocin through laughter, dance, and community. They go over how wardrobe choices and playful activities fuel confidence, why physical touch and the "two-minute cuddle rule" are backed by science, and how to break free from negative dating patterns by understanding both inner physiology and external behaviors. You'll hear: How hormonal changes during menopause impact confidence, sexuality, and body image Why oxytocin is crucial for intimacy and self-connection, and how chronic stress disrupts it Steps to reclaim your sense of self through both medical and lifestyle practices The science behind "enclothed cognition"—how wardrobe choices affect the brain and confidence How movement, dancing, laughter, and friendship can microdose oxytocin and lift your mood If you are stuck in the loop of painful dates, boring conversations and feeling not confident in your body, secure your spot in Kimmy's upcoming dating workshop and discover how to convert conversations into dates—space is limited, so act now! https://www.stophatingdating.com Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ************************************************ Would you like to connect with Kimmy? Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
About Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She's consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.
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