Some Marriages Don’t Need More Love. They Need Less Defensiveness.

Send us Fan Mail Some marriages don’t need more love. They need less defensiveness. Because sometimes your partner says, “That hurt me,” and instead of hearing them, you start explaining why they shouldn’t feel that way. They say, “I need more from you,” and you start listing everything you already do. They bring up their pain, and you bring up their mistakes. Eventually, they stop talking. Not because they stopped caring. Because they stopped believing they could reach you. And listen—valida...