#505 Cock Pep Talk: What Your Penis Wants You to Know

In this episode, we’re joined by Andre Lazarus, Somatic Intimacy Guide, sex and intimacy coach, and one of the professional surrogate partners featured on the UK series Virgin Island. Andre takes us behind the scenes of his unconventional work, including what it’s actually like to help people navigate intimacy challenges — and whether being a surrogate partner means, well… what you might think it means. We then get into the big questions around men and sex: what Andre wishes more men knew, what he wishes they’d do less of, and what he wishes more women understood about supporting the men they’re intimate with. We also tackle two issues that come up frequently in Andre’s work: erection difficulties and “rapid ejaculation.” Why do they happen? How much does performance pressure play a role? And what can men actually do about it? And finally, perhaps the most important question of all: If your penis could use a little pep talk, what should you say to it? Expect a candid, funny, and practical conversation about sex, confidence, vulnerability, communication, and learning to get out of your head — and back into your body. What a surrogate partner actually does Andre’s experience on Virgin Island Men, sex, and performance pressure Erection difficulties and rapid ejaculation What men should do more — and less — in bed What women can do to better support male partners Building sexual confidence and connection And, yes… what to say to your penis when it needs some encouragement Learn more about Andre and his work at www.coming-closer.com. Follow him on IG @comingcloserwithandre Learn more about our retreats: ⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off getting turned on by Drive Boost with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bring the heat back into your sex life with $10 off your first month at http://getarya.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://swanmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ + mention Shameless Sex for a discount