The Kink Consultant

How to Tell Your Partner You're Kinky - Part 1

October 8, 2026·19 min
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In the first episode of a special three-part solo series, I am breaking down everything you need to know before you tell your partner you are kinky.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠http://www.amandadames.com/coachingThis week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, I am launching a special solo series on how to tell your partner you are kinky. In part one, I focus on the preparation that needs to happen before the conversation even starts, because disclosing a kink and asking your partner to participate in it are two very different things.I walk through the questions you need to ask yourself first, including why you want to tell them, where your kink falls on the spectrum of fantasy, nice to have, and need, and how to identify the feeling underneath the kink so you can explain it in a way your partner can actually understand. I also address how to prepare for a no, why highly stigmatized kinks require extra time and softness, and why releasing shame is the number one thing standing between you and the experiences you want.If you have been hiding a kink, wondering how to bring it up, or scared of how your partner will react, this episode gives you the foundation you need before part two.Connect with Amanda⁠https://www.amandadames.com/⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Download the BDSM Checklist Here: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560⁠Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/store

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