Everywhere You Go, There You Are | #15

How well we know ourselves affects how we show up in every relationship we’re in. Our moods, patterns, needs, expectations, capacity, and the things we haven’t worked through all come into our relationships with us. When we don’t understand those things about ourselves, we may not recognize what we’re bringing into our relationships or how it’s affecting the people around us.In this episode, we explore:Why the relationship we have with ourselves matters in the relationships we have with other people.How little we may consider ourselves when making major relational decisions.What happens when we don’t recognize our own moods, reactions, and patterns.Why changing the person or environment doesn’t necessarily change a pattern we’re carrying with us.What it means to ask other people for things we may not know how to offer them or ourselves.Episode Thoughts to Sit With“How are we being in relationship with others when we’re ignoring the relationship with self?” “How can you sit with somebody else’s thoughts if you’re terrified to sit with your own thoughts?” “Getting to know ourselves, observing ourselves, being honest about what we do or what the patterns in our lives are or how we maneuver is critical for, one, us to have the life we say we want, and then, two, to be a person in relationship that is healthy with others.”“There’s so many people out here who say they want things from their parents, they want things from a partner, they want things from other people that they themselves have no ability to offer. The audacity. Why should you expect somebody to offer something to you that you can’t offer to them? Or even, how about, can you offer it to yourself?” tIf this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need to hear it.Join me over on Substack at The Better Question for more of what I’m thinking about and exploring. https://ajarutledge.substack.com/To get in touch about the show: ajarutledgecoaching@gmail.comThank you for listening to The Reality Between Us.