too much.

Are you begging to feel seen?

October 6, 2026·42 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

What if the reason you’re upset they ignored the TikTok you sent them… has absolutely nothing to do with the TikTok? This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole of John and Julie Gottman's theory of the fundamental unit of emotional communication: bids for connection — the tiny, often invisible ways we ask the people we love to notice us, choose us. Emma gets into why seemingly insignificant moments can hurt so f*cking much, how repeated rejection can quietly create distance in relationships, and the difference between someone who simply doesn’t know how to love you the way you need — and someone who knows and still chooses not to. From ignored texts and missed affection to one particularly painful relationship where breadcrumbs started feeling like a feast, this episode is about the little moments that tell us a whole lot about the people we love — and ourselves. Plus, Spooky Season Series has OFFICIALLY entered the chat once again, with an audience ghost story to close out the episode. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com   ⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠!!   Follow Too Much: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠   Follow Emma: ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠   Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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