EP 222: Mike's Story

Mike recounts early exposure to pornography, shame shaped by church messaging, family dynamics, and later learning his biological father’s sexual addiction, then baptizing him before his mission. He describes a canceled temple wedding due to church discipline, continued struggles after marriage, and his shift toward inner work, self-compassion, and a reframe of repentance as metanoia—a fresh view of self, God, and the world—emphasizing wholeness over perfection and connection as the antidote. He recommends “Lean on Me” as his recovery song. He discusses his pivot from branding and graphic design into men’s work, retreats, and breathwork, including co-founding the HEARE Brotherhood. Connect with Mike and get resources here: - www.thelightinus.org- www.hearebros.com- LinkedInMake a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps:01:11 Making Repair Story03:05 Meet Mike Allen03:20 Career Pivot and Purpose06:32 Family Crest Breakthrough07:41 First Mens Retreat Leap10:05 Breathwork Heart Opening12:22 HearBrotherhood Origin13:46 Early Porn Exposure14:39 Family Context and Masculinity17:28 Shame and Church Messages20:43 Bio Dad Addiction Reveal23:11 Baptizing His Dad23:48 Engagement Secrets25:02 Recommend Taken Away27:40 Wedding Canceled30:28 Marriage Did Not Fix It31:24 Beyond Twelve Steps34:51 Metanoia Not Shame37:30 Opposition And Shadow40:04 Golden Nuggets45:06 Find Mike Online45:47 Lean On Me Finale