Dating Intentionally

281. Why Closure Is a Lie (And What Actually Helps You Heal) w/ Kelsey Darragh

July 17, 2026·54 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

How do you actually get over a breakup, and why does it feel so impossible? In this episode, I'm chatting with author and mental health advocate Kelsey Darragh to unpack the science of heartbreak, why no-contact is so difficult, and what actually helps you move forward after a breakup (It's not the closure moment you think it is).From healing after a long-term relationship to knowing when you're ready to date again, this conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone struggling to let go of an ex or rebuild trust in love.In this episode, we cover:Why the story you tell yourself about your breakup mattersThe psychology behind no-contact (and how to stick with it)The truth about where closure comes fromHow to know when you're ready to date againHeartbreak vs. mental health: when to seek extra supportWhether you should tell a new partner about mistakes you've made in past relationshipsAt the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether you need to disclose past cheating before entering a new relationship.CONNECT WITH KELSEYOn InstagramGet her new book, Don't Do What I Did THANKS TO OUR SPONSORSEVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! bbvibes.com/DatingIntentionallyFREE STUFFDating Guides: 90 questions, FAQ, text templates & moreCONNECT WITH MESubmit a dating dilemmaSlide into my DMs on IGWatch the pod on YouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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