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#78. Chivalry Inflation: Why Dating Got So Expensive for Men

July 6, 2026·11 min
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Modern dating has become increasingly expensive for men — not only financially, but emotionally, socially, and psychologically. In this episode, I look at the inflation of chivalry: the way ordinary courtship has turned into elaborate performance, "princess treatment," promposals and endless proof of male devotion. What is the problem with this? We also look at the rise of "the ick," and what that signifies. Chapters: 00:40 The Cost of Modern Dating for Men 02:09 No Effort, No Reciprocity 03:00 Promposals and Princess Treatment 04:22 What Chivalry Was Supposed to Be 05:27 The Rise of "The Ick" 06:17 The Train Ticket Example 07:01 When Men Stop Performing 08:22 Women Want Permanent Courtship 09:00 Male Vulnerability and the Collapse of Empathy 10:11 Consuming Relationships Instead of Building Them 10:38 Fragile Narcissism and Modern Intimacy

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